While sex is often thought of as a process that is supposed to take some time, it is often desirable to have sex in a hurry. Quickies can spice up an otherwise boring sex routine, and are excellent when time is of the essence. Sometimes you want a gourmet meal, sometimes you want fast food, right? Like everything else in life, it can become monotonous to have sex in the same way, at the same time, and in the same places all the time. The quickie can help alleviate some of that boredom.
What is a quickie? How long does it last? The is no real answer, of course, but quickies are generally measured in minutes whereas regular sex is usually measured in terms of portions of hours ( i.e. a half hour, two hours, etc.). A quickie is a quick, raw fuck, usually done in a place that is out of the normal realm of places or environments that you usually have sex. Spontaneity is often the key.
People who've never had a quickie may wonder what the female gets out of it, since historically females are believed the require substantial "arousal time" and build-up in order to enjoy sex. That is often not the case, though. The key to enjoyment of a quickie is the arousal itself, and the taboo and illicit nature of quickie sex often results in a much higher state of arousal than regular, vanilla sex does. If you've spent all evening teasing and flirting with each other, oftentimes the arousal will be high once you get to the act anyway and it is a non-issue. In other cases, the mere fact that you're wanting to fuck in a spur-of-the-moment, random place will provide all of the arousal needed. And, even if one or the both of you fail to achieve orgasm, that isn't always completely necessary to the enjoyment of the act.
Example of quickies/locations
Quickies tend to be done in places that are out of what most people consider the "normal" environment of the bedroom or even the home itself. The specific places these might be done are limited only by your imagination and your aversion to risk. Here are some examples of places where you might indulge in such activity.
Public restrooms. The two of you can go into a stall, take care of business with the risk that someone who comes in is liable to discover you. These can often be dirty, but if you are in a hurry and the place is clean, they can afford some small measure of privacy while you still run the risk of getting caught.
Dressing rooms. The two of you can go into a dressing room and take care of business. The fact that someone might be watching via a security camera can make this even more enticing. The mirrors in these rooms can make the experience even more erotic.
College libraries. This is a favorite of college students, and the stacks are often vacant, especially in the later nighttime periods. Vacant/deserted classrooms work well for this also, as do escape stairwells (if you have a height difference between the two of you, consider using a stairwell, since the gradations in the steps will allow you to adjust for the differences). Make sure you know where the security cameras are!
Your office. If you have your own office, or a bathroom or conference room at work, these can be used. Know who has keys and/or access to the room before you use it, though, and how likely someone is to be walking in unannounced.
In an elevator. This one is fairly hard to pull off. It helps if you have a slow elevator or one that you can stop without triggering the alarm bell. Slow elevator rides make for good, quick blowjobs or even more if you're fortunate enough to get on one that doesn't alert every security guard in the place when you stop it. Doing it late at night when there’s less likely to be people in the building is also a viable option. Extra points for glass elevators that allow people to see in from the outside.
While hiking. Make use of the trees and other flora, large rocks, etc. Be cognizant of the area you're in and the attendant dangers. You don't want to be fucking someone in the middle of Yellowstone bear country and be surprised by a grizzly bear! You should also be careful of such things as poisonous plants, ant hills, etc.
When you get home from a hot date. As soon as you walk in the door, just throw down and do it right on the floor, against the wall, on the couch, etc. The quickie doesn't *have* to be some place in public.
In the shower. Unexpectedly hopping into the shower and do it when your partner doesn't suspect it is coming can be very hot.
The "Nooner" – the popular quick, lunch-break sex is still one of the more popular forms of the quickie. These can be done literally anywhere – home, the car, out behind the building, etc.
Movie theaters. If you sit in the back of a reasonably empty theater, you can usually take care of business without anyone knowing. Who turns around and tries to see what is going on during a movie in a darkened theater?
In the car, especially on longer trips. Stop in a remote area of a rest stop, mall or some other location's parking lot (without security) and go at it. The more tinted your windows are, the better. Road head (or a road handjob) is usually not considered a good idea due to the potential for a loss of control of the car, but it is a fairly common practice.
Join the "Mile High Club." With the tiny bathrooms on airplanes these days, this is not quite as easy as it once was. You can try a handjob or blowjob (or in some cases, even sex) in a seat if you have a row to yourself, it's dark in the plane, and the flight attendants are all seated, but if you get caught, you can be charged with a federal crime (though in the vast majority of cases, you'll just be asked to stop doing what you're doing)!
Any room in your house/apartment that is "out of the ordinary" for you, especially if it has a lots of windows. Leave the blinds open, but don't be blatant about it. Make it so that someone would have to exert some effort to see you, but allow them to see you if they wanted to. The exhibitionistic aspect of this helps make it what it is.
Useful Tips
One of the enticing points about the quickie is the relative lack of preparation that often accompanies it. However, that doesn't mean you should completely throw caution to the wind. Safe sex is a major concern, as are handy items to have around “just in case.” ( i.e. lube, for example).
If you know or suspect you're going to be in a position to indulge yourself in a quickie, go without panties/underwear. The girl can wear a skirt to make it go even faster if desired.
The quickie is not about making sure everything is just perfect and that all the "usual" steps are followed. The whole intent is to just allow for raw, unscripted sex. Don't get caught up in the minutiae of making sure everything is done just so. Enjoy the experience and the fun of just having sex for the sake of doing it.
While sex itself (including the quickie) is supposed to be mutually beneficial, there are times when you just give selflessly and want to get the other partner off. This can go either way, and there's nothing wrong with that kind of indulgence from time to time. The key is to make sure that every instance isn't like that. Sexual equality in the sex act itself is important, measured across time. You do him this time, he does you the next.
Having sex in public is a crime in most places, so keep this in mind. For many people, this risk is part of what makes the act so hot, but you won't be thinking of how hot it is when you get arrested. Be careful and make sure you evaluate the risks involved with your quickie! It may seem like fun, but you might end up on the news and/or your employer might find out about it, etc. At a minimum it can be costly from a financial perspective (i.e., fines, court costs, attorney fees, etc.).
You can involve sex toys, especially as a form of teasing. Butt plugs, for example, can be worn when you're going out and will provide continuous stimulation. They also make remotely-controlled vibrating cock rings and clitoral stimulators. You can go out and your partner can turn you on at his/her whim throughout the night.
Flirt as you lead up to the sex act. Use phone sex or text messaging to talk dirty to your partner and get things really hot before you finally hook up, for example. Or, you can decide for yourself that you're going to get your partner into a situation where a quickie is the result and tease him/her throughout the time before you actually get there.
Make sure you are both comfortable with what you're doing and where you're doing it. Though some discomfort or anxiety helps to build the tension associated with a quickie, it is important that both partners feel that the encounter is a positive one.
With the ubiquity of digital cameras and the advent of cell-phone cameras, you run the risk of anyone coming by snapping a photo, and that image is liable to end up on the Internet. This is not necessarily a bad thing (and in fact, may be kind of erotic in itself) so long as you can't easily identify you or your partner. Again, you need to evaluate what might happen.
Summary
Quickies are the quick, raw sex acts that add a little bit of spice to your sex life. They should be largely unscripted and unplanned (or at least, not overly planned), and should be a fun addition to your sexual repertoire. The key to enjoying them is making sure they're done safely and that both partners are comfortable with what happens and where. You should also keep in mind that quickies are intended to be rare, random kinds of events. Relying on quickies for your sex play more than occasionally may result in your becoming addicted to them – needing the adrenaline rush they give you in order to get off. Therefore, you should enjoy the quickie on an occasional basis rather than using them for your routine sexual encounters.
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While sex is often thought of as a process that is supposed to take some time, it is often desirable to have sex in a hurry. Quickies can spice up an otherwise boring sex routine, and are excellent when time is of the essence. Sometimes you want a gourmet meal, sometimes you want fast food, right? Like everything else in life, it can become monotonous to have sex in the same way, at the same time, and in the same places all the time. The quickie can help alleviate some of that boredom. 
