I’ve been asked several times (and it has been asked here before)
what the differences were between sex with a guy and sex with a
girl. Each is a different kind of experience, and trying to explain
the differences to someone who has not done it is kind of hard to
do, but I’ll give it a shot. I don’t necessarily believe that sex
with one gender is better than the other – they’re just different.
Note that these are solely my opinions, and are generalities, not
rules. Some things I say about one sex doesn’t apply to every person
of that sex, etc. This is largely geared toward the girls that want
to know what the differences are, so it might seem slightly biased
against the men, but that's not my intent.
First off, sex with a guy usually involves a power struggle, and I
don’t mean that in a negative way. Actually, it is very positive.
What I mean is, the guy in order to bring a woman to climax must
exert a certain amount of physical force/power and the woman must
react against that in order for either/both to achieve orgasm. That
forceful penetration and reaction is one of *the* best things about
sex with a guy. Even with a strap-on, being penetrated by a woman is
nowhere near as satisfying as it is when a live penis is involved.
The act of being dominated in bed that takes place when a guy fucks
a woman cannot be duplicated between two women - I don't care what
anyone else says. :-P
With a guy, the ego is a much more significant concern. If a woman
asks a guy to do something different (i.e., “could you change the
way you’re eating my pussy?”), usually, the male’s ego will be
bruised. Now, most people don’t like to believe that they cannot
satisfy someone else in bed, but truly sexual people should be
willing to learn and take direction from the person being pleased,
since they’re the ones that know what works on them, and most guys
just seem to have issues with a girl telling them how to do them.
The feminine ego does not get in the way of this in bed like the
masculine one does.
Many guys are too timid to either ask for or participate in anything
outside of pure, vanilla sex (oral, vaginal, and maybe anal), esp.
if requested by the female. I suppose this goes back to the outdated
concept that guys must be the ones in control in the bedroom. If a
woman expresses a desire to try something different, esp. if it
involves some act being performed on the guy (“Let me stick my
finger in your ass while I give you head – you’ll love it”), he
frequently is reluctant to acquiesce. Women are much more open to
experimentation if the request comes from another woman. I believe
this is because a woman will trust another one to know what hurts,
what works, etc., and believes that she wouldn’t do anything to
intentionally hurt her; whereas guys are not always known for their
gentleness! A terrific example would be anal play. If a guy asks a
woman to allow him to stick a finger (or a dick) in her ass out of
the blue, the woman typically has a “no way!” reaction. If a woman
asks another woman to allow her to stick a finger in her ass, she is
much more willing to allow her to try it. Lol
Sex with another woman occurs on a much different emotional plane
than sex with a guy does. I can lay in bed with another woman for
HOURS having sex, and neither of us will feel rushed, just touching,
licking, kissing, etc. Most guys are programmed for “fuck and
forget” and after a fairly short period of time, they’ll tire of
even just being in the bed. I love having "Multiple O" contests with
other girls - see who can get the other one off the most times.
That's almost unheard of when sex involves a man and a woman.
For women, if you’ve masturbated and know your body well, you have
the innate ability to please another woman without having to learn
your way around. That is not to say that it doesn’t take some effort
to figure out what gets the other woman off, but a woman knows where
the clit is and how to approach it right off the bat, whereas most
guys just don’t. I have taken first-timers (girls) into the bedroom
and within a few minutes and a little coaching, they can get me off
with oral. For some guys, it takes a long time to get them to learn
how to do it correctly (and from what I understand, some never do!
Lol)
Scents: Guys and girls have different scents when they’re having
sex. With a guy, it is much more animalistic; whereas with a girl it
is a much more musky, sweet odor.
Touches: This one’s obvious. With a guy, the touch is much stronger,
much more powerful. With a woman, it is a gentler, reassuring kind
of touch.
Trust: For me personally, I trust relinquishing myself wholly to
another woman much easier than I do to a guy, for many of the
reasons stated above. For those of you that have gotten to that
level with anyone (male or female), you know how empowering that can
be for both sides during sex. It’s not that I don’t trust the guy I
am in bed with (if I didn’t, I sure wouldn’t be fucking him). But
with another woman, it is easier to trust that she won’t do anything
to hurt you (unintentionally) than it is with a man, if for no other
reason than she (should) knows how to treat the female body.
That pretty much summarizes my thoughts on what I believe the
differences are. I'd love to hear thoughts of any of the other girls
who've been with both sexes are on this, too.
One person has commented on this article.  1. UntitledGuest User, Unregisteredim lesbian and my current gf is bisexual. she had hetero sex with her past relationship. whenever i ask her to compare, she is reluctant because, like you said, it is just different. it's like comparing an eggplant with a marshmallow..
but she DID say i know how to get her off in multiple orgasms than her ex-boyfriend.. i guess being patient with her, letting her feel that orgasm isnt the main thing, makes her more relaxed.. and therefore easier to orgasm. with the ex-boyfriend she felt she had to come for him, or else hurt his ego. with me.. she felt she can come for herself and not for my ego.
So the part you said about the male ego is very true. |
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